Updated: May 2
From being fit and healthy, to severe postpartum depression and anxiety, to a path of natural recovery with deep personal growth, this long and hard journey not only set me free from the illness, but also lifted me to a new level of wellness I never knew was possible.
What surprised me was that it has also, unintentionally, flourished other parts of my life, parenting and marriage, which I call the byproducts of raising myself.
Like any new mum, I had fantasies of being the greatest parent and raising the most successful, happy and healthy human beings on the planet. I had ideas and expectations which I unintentionally projected onto them. I repeatedly found myself teaching, correcting, worrying and searching for the magic wand, but overlooking the uniqueness and wonder they carried within. Disconnected children and a burnt-out mum were the result.
Guided by Dr. Bruce Lipton and Dr. Shefali Tsabary, eventually I realised that my outer world, including the two little humans, was a reflection of my inner world. I realised that I was not here to teach my children, but they were here to teach me. I realised that ego and fear were in my way from being who I really am. I realised that children were not the ones that needed fixing, I was.
This shift in perspective was a game changer. I have focused on personal growth ever since, cultivating a healthy mind, connecting with nature, being present, and discovering the power within, with more listening and less demanding, more connecting and less correcting, more respecting and less imposing.
I have become calmer, more empathetic, compassionate, patient, and creative. Incredibly, these qualities have been promptly reflected in the children's behaviors. They are more independent and less needy, more open and less rejective. Our household is filled with more laughter than screaming, more interactions than tension. A good place to be in.
It all began from changing within, more precisely, a change of perspective in the mind.